The Wedding: How, Why, Photos!

Protagonists:

  • Sejal: An EC engineer, currently employed with Wipro; born & brought up in Ahmedabad; details on her blog, and Facebook profile.
  • Pulkit: A CS researcher, currently deriving wages from HP Labs; a native of Ahmedabad; more on his Facebook profile and here.

The ‘theme’ we followed:

Small is beautiful. Simple is sensible.

Wedding venue: Arya Samaj (Mandir), Ahmedabad. Our first choice, though, was the Marriage Registrar’s office.

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Spectators: Immediate relatives (around 20 from either side)

Events: Just the marriage ceremony, followed by lunch in a nearby restaurant [No reception, music night, etc.]

Exchange: After a number of requests/arguments, we managed to ensure minimal give-and-take of gold and gifts, but couldn’t avoid the exchange totally.

Why simple marriage?: Nah, there was no ulterior motive of saving up money for a grand honeymoon or something :).

  • Expensive marriages have almost become a compulsion, due to the fear of what ‘people’ will think otherwise. We wanted to emphatically disobey this unwritten societal norm that pushes plenty of families onto hefty loans or the abandonment of a daughter’s education.
  • Because the expense is predominantly shouldered by the girl parents, costly marriages (along with dowry) prompt parents to prefer a son over a daughter (whose birth is tantamount to decades of cost cutting).
  • We wanted to steer clear of fire crackers [for the sake of asthma patients and scores of small kids who labour in the hazardous surrounds of cracker units], food wastage (which is enormous in marriages), and excesses such as decorative lighting.
  • A guest list boasting 500+ invitees does NOT foster relationships. We’d rather invite friends/relatives home in separate clusters, for a meaningful interaction.

Getting the parents on board:

We kept reiterating how this was as an extraordinary opportunity to help correct a deep-rooted trend. Still, there remained resistance, as anticipated. But, with time, seeing that our resolve was unshakable, they increasingly softened their stance – so much so that they now brandish the marriage theme to their new acquaintances!. The key is strong-minded persistence: Don’t fall prey to momentary emotions, and stay committed to the right thing. Another crucial tip: don’t raise hell at the last minute, break the news early!

More photos:

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About Pulkit Parikh

A computer science researcher by training. At present, I earn my monthly wages from Microsoft, where I am a software engineer. Prior to that, I had worked with KSS and HP Labs, after obtaining MS-by-Research from IIIT Hyderabad. I hail from Ahmedabad (Gujarat), where I spent the first two decades of my life. A few years later, Sejal was kind enough to pick me as her partner for life. I am avidly fond of bridge (a riveting mind game of cards). In late 2010, I made what I consider my most significant decision: https://pulzinponderland.wordpress.com/living-well-by-letting-live/

Posted on January 16, 2008, in General Musings and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 18 Comments.

  1. Congrats to both of you .. Wish you a very successful and happy marriage life… enjoy..waiting a dinner with bth of you ..

  2. I am impressed …[:)] . will try to follow something similar

  3. CONGRATS on your marriage and the procedure for it!

  4. Congrats dear. and thought provoking stuff there :) let me think if i can plan something like this on my marriage!!

  5. Congratulations to both of you!

  6. Gosh … every one around is getting married …

    marriage with out taam jaam was a strong decision … good to see at least few people are doing what they say ..

    and
    wish you two a very happy .. married life ..

  7. Pulkit and Sejal,

    Kudos to you and Sejal…..I hope this really became what we call a “TREND” and more and more people makes living for others….

    Wishing you very happy married life…God bless

    Shailesh

  8. Congratulations man!! And even in your marriage.. you lived up to your ideals. Great to see what you are doing.

  9. Hey Congrats and Happy married life…….am inspired by ur thoughts…

  10. Very good concept !!!!!!

    Wish you both a very happy married life. May God bless you with all the happiness :)

  11. Not surprised as I know you :)

    Heart congratulations Pulkit.
    Wish you a prosperous marriage life ahead.
    This theme should be taken as a model :). I liked it.

    ~Sateesh.

  12. Good Work Dude
    Wish you Happy Married Life

  13. Hi pulkit,

    Congratulations! for marriage, to both of you.

    Hats off!!! to your theme of marriage. Moment I saw it, 100s of great openions and feelings appeared in my mind but I think this is high time when silence will express more of it than words.

    Great job Pulkit :-).

    -Harsh

  14. Hey Sejal,

    Congratulations!!!!!!!!! ur marriage sure came as a surprise to me. anyways i am realllllly happy for both of u and hope u have a wonderful life ahead!!!!!!!
    This marriage theme is surely great and hope people follow the trend.
    congratulations once again……will meet u for sure whenever i plan to come to banglore!!!!!!

    bye…take care!!! enjoy!!!!

  15. Congrats for marriage.
    I am following your blogs from long time, now this marriage one is part of mine Gtalk status, do i have to mention how much i impressed with ur blog.
    Meet you some day in Bangalore.

  16. Congrats to both of you! And its inspiring to see young people leading the way !

  17. Hey man. First of all Congrats to both of you. Great work.

  18. Thanks for sharing your ideas in this beautiful post!
    And Wish you a very happy married life.. May God create all the good things in your relation..

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